Hostages, Indecision, Guilt, Shame, Regret & Courage the to Adapt
The Chronicles of Brian Castellani
There will always be misanthropic types of people who take pleasure in dragging you down.
There are people who, despite their better judgment, will specifically choose to cause hardship rather than help. People who specifically make the choice to not understand your reasons, or won’t get involved in a particular situation. These people are consciously making a decision to cause unnecessary strife out of their own deficient appetites.
It is their prerogative. It may not be who they are – but, it is where they are.
It is their choice. They have made that choice with the full knowledge of what the desired outcome will be for their life. For that moment in time, it is the choice they chose to make, and they made the choice. But conversely… it is explicitly your choice to continue engaging with them once you realized what is involved and that they made that distinct decision.
Wake up… do not hang on to petty resentments. Realize this is the only life we have to live. Maybe, if we are lucky, we get two chances to live – but that isn’t up to us either. And that is not what this is about.
The people who hold us back may never know what a fulfilled life feels like because most people get stuck. We need to just accept that. They find themselves there one day and they didn’t plan for it either. They become human – just like you – and it is one of the cycles that therapists talk about.
But… it almost never stops “there.” There is always more to the story, more that we don’t see. More reasons that might justify the reason “why” but – does it matter?
People suddenly find themselves inside this cycle, and they are over remorseful, too apologetic, and always regret their past decisions, yet they continue to repeat the same mistakes over and over again.
Indecision, shame, and regret can be counter to being courageous.
We are raised to assign meaning to inanimate realities, to be blind consumers who plod along a yearly marketing plan, and force-fed a false destiny of “acceptance,” in relation to leading our own lives.
What about other people’s agenda force us to feel deficient? What amount of purchasing will fulfill our lives? How will we feel like a whole person, if it doesn’t matter what you buy?
There has never been a cure-all for humanity. There will never be a life-altering drug that will change your life completely.
The only thing that is completely “life-altering,” is the specific choice to change. It is a momentary choice a person makes, which at some random time in a person’s life, might inevitably last a lifetime.
It will come in the form of an overdose, or the running a traffic light, or taking someone else’s life prematurely, or having 6 people beat you to death, and leave you to deal with the aftermath. Focus on getting over the divorce. Focus on being sober. Focus on getting over your circumstances. Focus on getting over your lifelong pain. Focus on yourself.
Nothing is impossible, nothing is forever, all there is, is what you choose.
Once a person chooses their path, there is only that specific choice to accept the situation for what it is and embrace the outcome. There isn’t another option until you are physically and/or spiritually able to be reborn, again, free – from the thing that you have assigned attachment to.
But freedom is fickle and can be elusive. People must make an active decision to live and to be present in their own lives, without a focus on the result.
As humans, our only choice is to adapt.
Adapt to living, or else you are fated to spend the majority of the life that’s left, remembering what you’ve lost, what was taken away from you, or who you could have been.
Until you’re physically and/or spiritually able to pull yourself from the things you’re attached to – and consciously make an active decision to live – your life won’t change.
The best most people can hope for in this single serving life is to hold onto the people you think you love, remain open for the ones in this world who might take a chance to love us back and to never beg for understanding from people who will never give it.
Where-ever the fleeting time takes us, we must be decisively and ruthlessly able to make our decision to live a life worth living, or there is no point to any of it.
There are no golden tickets, there are only the illusions of living a charmed life. The true measure of a person is their tolerance of others. Sometimes, though, we all have to go through an illusion it in order to understand how to even tolerate ourselves.
The message we need to hear is very clear… no matter what happens, you must survive, as good as you can, as long as you can, if it is possible.